If you’re a guy who dates or sleeps with women, then there’s something you should know (if you don’t already). Most women not only love sex toys but love the idea of potentially using a sex toy with their partner along for the ride. In fact, the chances are excellent that your lady has already either used a sex toy or would totally do so, given the opportunity.
According to research around 82 percent of women have owned at least one sex toy over the course of their lifetimes. Another 70 percent say they use a vibrator or other sex toy regularly and that it’s benefited them immensely. Not all of those women are single, either. Many are in relationships and continue to use sex toys to enhance their solo time.
That said, one of the better things a man can do for his relationship is to care enough about his partner’s pleasure to give her whatever she needs in order to have a satisfactory experience. Adding a sex toy to the mix is one way to do this. Here’s a look at a few of the individual benefits.
1. Sex toys can increase intimacy
Many men worry that if they buy their partner a sex toy or suggest using it together that she’ll like it too much and start seeing him as obsolete. However, the opposite usually happens. First of all, even the best sex toy is no substitute for a genuine connection with a beloved human partner. And the experience of using sex toys together often increases intimacy on multiple levels.
Sex toys can help open the door to a better ongoing dialogue about sex, turn-ons, and individual sexual needs. Using the sex toys as a couple also allows you both to access entirely new experiences and sensations together, like fun in the shower with a waterproof sex toy. And showing that you care about your partner’s pleasure naturally deepens your connection, as well.
2. Sex toys can help empower your partner
If your partner’s prior relationship with sex toys is limited to non-existent, then it’s possible she has no real idea how empowering it can be to use one. Using sex toys alone or with a partner can help a woman become properly acquainted with her body and all of the ways it experiences pleasure.
Sex toys can also help both partners overcome harmful social conditioning that dictates someone’s partner should be their only source of pleasure once they’re in a relationship. That said, buying one for your partner (and making it clear she can use it with you or on her own) is a powerful act of love and selflessness that can benefit you both.
3. Sex toys take the pressure out of lovemaking
It goes without saying that orgasms are wonderful things. Everyone loves having them, as well as being involved in helping their partner have one. But sometimes overfocusing on orgasm and making it the be-all and end-all of any sexual encounter can do more harm than good.
Sexual pressure related to orgasm affects men and women alike. If you’re not the one feeling pressure to give one, then you’re likely feeling pressure to have one, which can be as bad or worse. But adding a sex toy to the mix can help take that pressure off, making it possible for you to get back to enjoying simply being together.
4. Sex toys can keep you connected when you’re apart
Not every couple is lucky enough to be able to physically be together whenever they’d like. More people meeting online (potentially across great distances) means more folks in search of ways to keep a spark alive while living apart from one another. The same goes for couples who travel for business, who are in the military, and so forth.
Resources like the internet, social media, and video chat can be immensely helpful in this regard, but so can sex toys. Some sex toys are even app-compatible or leverage technology to connect to corresponding sex toys a partner might have wherever they are, opening up a whole new world of possibility.
5. Sex toys can mean better sex for both of you
One thing many men who are new to sex toys themselves aren’t prepared for is how thoroughly a sex toy can elevate sex for them as well as their partner. Sensations like vibrations feel good to anyone’s nerve endings, including yours, so don’t be surprised if you love what a sex toy like a vibrator brings to the table as much as your partner does.
And the more satisfied your partner becomes with your sex life, the more excited they’re going to be about future sexual encounters. In other words, buying a sex toy for your partner is a choice that may turn out to be a game-changer for both of you, so don’t be afraid to explore the possibilities. There are so many out there just waiting to be discovered.
