Whether they’re thinking seriously about branching out in the bedroom or not, everyone thinks about kinky sex at least occasionally, and with good reason. It’s fun to think about different options and wonder what they might be like. And it can be just as fun to try some of them out in real life, especially if you have a willing partner who likes exploring as much as you do.
But knowing you like the idea of taking a walk on the kinky side is one thing. Bringing up the topic with your partner and handling the logistics of changing direction is another, but it’s also something well worth exploring. In fact, exploring kink with your partner can potentially strengthen your bond and make you closer. Here’s how.
1. It opens up a sexual dialogue.
Everyone knows that they should be talking openly with their partner about sex, but some people find that a lot easier than others. Reserved upbringings and differing comfort levels with sensitive topics can make it especially hard to talk frankly about subjects like fantasies, unusual turn-ons, one’s level of interest in kink, and so forth.
Deciding to take the plunge into trying kink can be a real game-changer in this regard, though. Total, perpetual consent is critical with any type of kink, including bondage and BDSM, so it’s a great catalyst to better sexual communication. You’ll learn how to give and receive sexual feedback, use safe words, talk about boundaries, and more. It’s only a matter of time before talking about sex feels so much more natural.
2. It encourages deep trust and intimacy.
A healthy, happy sex life is already a crucial part of intimacy in a relationship, but adding kink to the mix can up the ante even further. Many types of kink play – like breath play, bondage, and blindfolding, to name just a few examples — bring an element of risk to the table. To comfortably engage in those things, you need to trust your partner implicitly.
When you give someone that trust and the experience turn out to be positive, intimacy increases. The same goes for sharing experiences with one another that you might not have been comfortable trying with other people before.
3. You’re more likely to stay faithful.
While fidelity may not necessarily mean total monogamy to one couple the way it might to another, it’s still crucial that both people in a relationship respect it. However, rough patches and lulls in the energy between the two of you may sometimes make it harder to stick to the rules you’ve set. Exploring kink play together can strengthen a couple’s resolve to stay appropriately faithful to one another.
The level of trust a kink-inclusive relationship eventually cultivates is exceptional and hard to come by. Couples who are really into kink tend to take fidelity very seriously, as they don’t want to do anything to damage the sense of safety and trust they’ve built with their partner. As a result, they’re less likely to stray in the first place and more likely to simply talk to the other person if there are problems in the relationship.
4. Your mental health will improve.
Even well-adjusted people sometimes struggle with depression, anxiety, or the cumulative effects of stress. Even standard vanilla sex can be an incredible stress reliever, but kinky sex can be even more effective. You and your partner may find that you become less neurotic and anxious over time. Stressful situations may also become easier to manage.
Stepping out of your comfort zone and successfully embracing challenges that appeal to you is a huge confidence booster, as well, and this is no less the case when it comes to your sex life. Overcoming any fears you might have about talking with your partner about kink will make it easier to take on new challenges, in general, which will improve your relationship in turn.
5. You’ll become more confident.
People who enjoy having kinky sex tend to be more comfortable taking risks at work, setting or enforcing boundaries with other people, living their truths, and expressing how they really feel about important topics. Not only do they feel better about themselves and more confident in their dealings with others, but they feel more comfortable in their own skins.
Everyone’s heard that they can’t truly love another person to the fullest until they love themselves, and that’s true in many ways. Confident, forthright people who like themselves and feel good about who they are make better partners. They’re more attentive, more adventurous, and simply get more out of life, in general – qualities anyone couldn’t help but love.
So, what are you waiting for? Give kink a try with your partner today and see what it does for your relationship. And there is so much to try. A few of the more common kinks include playing with whips, floggers, restraints, sex swings, nipple clamps, puppy play, even chastity and electrosex. You can find everything you’ll need to explore your new world at Cloud Climax.
