With spring right around the corner, it’s only natural to think about ways to shake off any lingering winter cobwebs and revitalize your sex life again – there’s no reason to stop at spring cleaning your home and taking up a new hobby or two unless that’s what you want.
Your sex life can really benefit from an occasional injection of new energy, as well, especially if you’re in a long-term relationship. Here are some ideas to try on for size yourself this spring – ideas that really work for real relationships just like yours.
1. Masturbate more often
So many people still wrongly believe that masturbation is (or should be) strictly for singles with no access to “real” sex that involves another person, but nothing could be further from the truth. Masturbation is one thing just about every sexually satisfied person has in common – including those in relationships.
Masturbation, especially any that involves sex toys like male prostate massagers, is a great way to learn more about what turns you on or makes you orgasm, which you can apply in the bedroom with your partner, as well as revitalize your sex life. And, generally speaking, the more orgasms you have, the more you want to have. So masturbating can help give your libido a boost, too.
2. Take foreplay out of the bedroom
Or at least build a bigger fence around it so it has room to roam around a little. One of the better was any couple can revitalize their sex life is to redefine what counts as foreplay, as well as when and where it’s allowed to happen. That’s when sparks really start flying.
Send your partner the occasional spicy text or sexy selfie throughout the day when they least expect it. Or send them a special delivery sometime that goes beyond flowers and chocolate. Think racy alternatives like lingerie, sex toys, or erotica.
3. Revamp your date night timeline
If you and your partner make it a point to have regular date nights, then you probably follow the same ultimate pathway to sex pretty much every time. You get all dressed up and go out to dinner. Then you hit a movie, a concert, or whatever else you might have planned. It’s only at the end of the night that you probably have sex – after you’re full, tired, bloated, tipsy, and an entire host of other things.
Try changing things up a couple of times and seeing what a difference it makes. Have sex earlier in the evening – possibly first thing – and then do the other stuff. It’s an interesting way to change the energy of the entire evening, ensures you’re energetic enough to get the most out of sex, and does a lot to revitalize your sex life. And who knows? You may just be in the mood for seconds later on.
4. Scope out a new location or two
Routine can be a real mixed bag when it comes to sex. On the one hand, comfort and really knowing one another well when it comes to intimacy can make it easier to enjoy yourselves consistently. But if things get too predictable, routine can lead to boredom and lack of interest.
Thankfully, it doesn’t take much to keep routines from transitioning into ruts. It can be as simple as making it a point to switch up your location every so often. That new location can be anywhere – the shower, your walk-in closet, or even up against the wall in your hallway – so long as it isn’t where you normally have sex.
5. Explore a fantasy together
Fantasies can be extremely private, personal things, so not everyone necessarily feels comfortable sharing theirs with their partner. But giving it a try anyway may bring you and your partner closer together than you ever dreamed possible. A fantasy share session can also be the catalyst to some seriously great times in the bedroom.
If you are into the idea, consider sitting down with your partner at some point, declaring a “no judgment” zone, and taking turns trading pet fantasies. You can also take turns playing porn clips that especially turn you on for a more visual way to share things you’re into. Being vulnerable with each other and sharing your deepest desires will do a lot to revitalize your sex life.
Consider also making a list of mentioned options you both like the sounds of and actively taking steps to explore them together in reality sometime. Turn to your list whenever you’re in the mood for a new idea: kinky sex improves your relationship in fantastic ways.
And most importantly of all, make sure you’re having fun together in all aspects of your life, both in the bedroom and outside of it. Yes, you should explore and experiment between the sheets. But you should also branch out and explore, in general.
Take a class together, discover a new restaurant, or take a weekend away somewhere completely unfamiliar. Sharing experiences and building intimacy together in your daily lives often can’t help but translate into better intimacy in your sex life, as well.
