For many couples, planning a romantic, sexy weekend getaway or honeymoon is as simple as choosing the right destination and booking a stay at the right hotel. But when you’re into kink, you need to put a little more thought into things if you’re genuinely going to get the most out of your time away together.
After all, no romantic vacation could possibly be called complete if you can’t indulge in your favorite naughty pastimes while you’re away. Here are some tips for having a great time away that goes off without a hitch.
1. Pack vinyl sheets
Whether you’ll be staying at a mainstream hotel, an Airbnb, or a property owned by friends, the last thing you want to do is leave a huge mess behind for someone else to clean up. If the kind of kink you’re into might be of this variety, definitely bring some vinyl sheets along for good measure.
Not only does vinyl let you play with as much abandon and freedom as you would at home, but you won’t have the worry of leaving a mess at the back of your mind the whole time. Of course, keeping things clean is the best way to make sure your business stays private, as well.
2. Invest in portable bondage options
Many of your favorite bondage items might be impractical for travel for many reasons. For example, not only do heavy metal cuffs and accessories add weight and bulk to your luggage, but you don’t even want to attempt to take them on a plane if you’ll be flying. (They can resemble weapons, bombs, and other dangerous items.)
Most traveling kinksters eventually invest in some handy portable options that are not only convenient but make it easy to travel light. For example, portable under-bed bondage devices and bungee stretch nets make great alternatives to the types of restraints you usually use. And they work well with pretty much any bed, too.
3. Consider temporarily suspending certain rules
If you and your partner are into Dom/sub play to the point where it affects how the two of you interact in public or navigate the real world together, you’ll want to give some thought to how your behavior might scan to authorities at the airport or train station. Any behavior that could be perceived as strange could easily mark you as suspicious – the last thing you want when traveling far from home.
If the two of you do typically follow a specific public protocol as part of your kink play, it’s strongly advisable that you temporarily set it aside if you won’t be taking your own transportation. It’s always best to try to blend in situations like those.
4. Give some thought to how open you want to be
If you and your partner are heavily into your kink play, you have every right to be proud of it and not be ashamed of it. In other words, how out and open you want to be about your going dynamic is ultimately up to you. But when spending time someplace unfamiliar, you really do want to consider how wise full, in-everyone’s-face openness is where you’re going.
For example, there are countries where someone’s kink basically classifies them as a criminal on principle. And there are many, many communities around the world where kink is still frowned upon, meaning you might be treated differently for being so open about yours. So don’t be too cavalier about telling anyone and everyone what you’re into. There are lots of reasons why that might not be appropriate.
5. Consider all your accommodation options
Although there’s nothing wrong with planning to convert a standard hotel room into the kink palace of your dreams while the two of you are away, that’s not your only option. Many kink-loving couples – especially those who prefer being out and open about their lifestyle – choose their destinations with this in mind.
For example, there are kink-themed resorts, cruises, and other options to consider – destinations that will let you be as open as you like while rubbing elbows with other people like you. And, of course, some cities or countries might offer more than others when it comes to ways to explore your kink further.
Ultimately, your kink play isn’t something you need to leave at home when you travel unless that’s what you want. There are many places to spend your time that are fully kink friendly. And it’s easier than you think to turn even the most mundane overnight accommodations into an excellent opportunity to play to your heart’s content.
The key to having the time of your life is knowing your destination and planning thoroughly. Then there’s nothing that will get in the way.
