If you’re like most people, you probably not only masturbate but do so fairly often, and that’s as it should be. Masturbation is a normal part of a person’s sex life, whether they’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between. It’s also great for your physical, mental, and emotional health on numerous levels.
Plus, masturbation is just plain fun when you approach it with the right attitude. But self-service can also get pretty stale after a while. People figure out what works for them and stick to that, which can make things less fun and more perfunctory.
In other words, yes, it’s possible to find yourself smack in the middle of a self-service rut. But it’s easier than you might think to find your way out again. Here’s how.
Take your time
Many people think of masturbation as a go-to when they’re in the mood for a quick orgasm, want to relieve a little stress, or are simply looking for a fun way to kill a few minutes. As a result, the goal is basically to rush toward orgasm as quickly as possible before calling it a day.
And there’s really nothing wrong with that. But it’s also a great idea to try to rediscover self-pleasure as an intimate experience, just as you would approach lovemaking with a partner. Think back to the days when you were young and first discovering your body and everything it was capable of sexually.
Try slowing things down and mindfully savoring the entire experience. Actively explore new sensations and pleasure zones. Pay close attention to how your body responds to what you do and how it all makes you feel – these are all great methods to help you break out of a self-service rut.
Switch up the details
If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a sex rut with a partner, then you likely also know it doesn’t take much to spice things up and make sex exciting again. Even something as simple as a new location or position can really help, and making it a point to switch those details up often can keep ruts permanently at bay.
These techniques can be just as effective when it comes to self-pleasure, so don’t be afraid to explore the possibilities. For example, do you usually masturbate in bed at night right before going to sleep? Try it first thing in the morning while you take your morning shower. Do you typically do it sitting or lying down? Try it standing up instead. You’ll be surprised at how much this helps to break you out of a self-service rut.
Add a toy or two to the mix
If you’re used to approaching masturbation as a strict means to an end, then it’s entirely possible that you haven’t done much exploring when it comes to sex toys. If that’s the case, consider this the sign you’ve been looking for that it’s time to start exploring the possibilities.
If you’re a woman new to toys, start with a standard vibrator to get a feel for what a toy can do for your solo routine. And if you already use a vibrator as a rule, consider trying something new that brings a different set of sensations to the table – like a clitoral sucker or a touchless stimulator.
If you’re a guy, pocket pussies are a great place to start exploring, and you can easily upgrade to a Fleshlight or other motorized option once you figure out what you like. Prostate massagers, cock rings, and penis pumps are great options to explore, as well. Remember, you’re the one in the driver’s seat, so feel free to steer things wherever your curiosity leads you.
Try some lube
Lots of people make the mistake of thinking lube is a strictly “as needed” type of product, but nothing could be further from the truth. Sure, a bottle of lube can be a helpful thing to have on hand when Mother Nature could use a little assistance, but it’s well worth trying a little, even if it’s not absolutely necessary.
Lube can increase sensation and make it easier to activate every last one of your nerve endings. If you’re using a vibrator, it can help convey vibrations and manage friction. There are even lubes out there that can produce warming or cooling sensations, enhance arousal, and so much more, so you owe it to yourself to explore the possibilities, which will greatly aid you to break out of a self-service rut.
Try it with a partner
Masturbation doesn’t have to be something you only enjoy alone unless you really want it to be. Consider trying mutual masturbation with a partner sometime. It can be a sexy way to spice things up between the two of you while also perhaps teaching each other a thing or two about how your bodies work. There are reasons why every couple should use sex toys together.
All things considered, a quick solo session will always be a great way to scratch that familiar itch when the mood strikes. But it can be seriously enjoyable as an activity, as well, so don’t be afraid to do a little exploring.
