Edging is a masturbation technique that takes you to the brink of orgasm but stops before you cum, after a pause you then begin to build to orgasm again. The cycle can be repeated, taking you to the edge of orgasm again and again until you’re a heap of quivering nerves and sensations and boom – you cum like never before. It is also known as surfing, teasing and peaking and both men and women can practice edging. It is often used to help manage premature ejaculation but its main benefit is to prolong and intensify the orgasmic experience.
Playing with orgasm control can be done solo or with a partner and is often included in kink and BDSM play as a part of orgasm control, orgasm denial or forced orgasm play.
Today, we’re looking at ways to edge for guys playing by themselves.
As well as feeling AMAZING, the obvious benefit to using edging for orgasm control is that it can extend the length of time you’re sexually aroused before you climax, which is fun for you and anyone you’re playing with. Building up to and then retreating from the climax of sexual pleasure can give you far more intense orgasms and, over time, lead to a more fulfilling sex life.
The benefits of edging
The main benefit of practising edging and orgasm control is extending the period of time between arousal and ejaculation. It can also be used to increase your awareness of your sensual body and sexual stimulation. Like any other discipline, the more you practise the more impact it will have.
Understanding the male orgasm
Understanding the male orgasm will help you practice your edging technique. You will spend most of your time in stage 2 – either building up to or retreating from the feeling of climax. You may find that taking more time in the initial excitement stage can help prolong the build-up to the point of orgasm.
The male orgasm has four phases;
- Excitement. This is the build-up phase, your skin will flush, your muscles get tense and the scrotum withdraws.
- Plateau. You’re getting closer to orgasm and everything that’s happening in stage one feels even more intense.
- Orgasm. The ecstatic collision of nerves and muscle that results in ejaculation.
- Resolution. This is the beginning of the refractory (recovery) period when your body begins to return to its pre-aroused state.
How to practise edging the male orgasm
How to practise edging the male orgasm
- Set the scene
Make sure you’re alone and without interruptions, this isn’t a quick process and you’ll need to concentrate.
Use scented candles, atmospheric lighting, soft music; whatever you usually use to set the mood for your sexual adventure.
Grab some lube, use a lube that you’re comfortable with for ease of movement and extra sensations.
- Go for it
You know how to get yourself up to orgasm, there’s no need to rush though, this is a thoughtful process not a race to the finish. As you get closer to orgasm try to concentrate on the sensations throughout your whole body, not just your genitals.
- Wait for it
Stimulate yourself to close to orgasm and as you get close, slow down and then either ease the pressure, stop stimulating yourself or squeeze the top of your penis to stop the climax.
- Repeat it
Let the intense feelings of climax fall away and concentrate on the feelings throughout your body, then being to gently re-stimulate yourself to the brink of orgasm again.
- Do it all again
Repeat the cycle of building up to the climax and then stopping, slowing and re-starting as many times as you want to. The aim is to enjoy yourself and build your sexual stamina by using your awareness of when you’re about to climax and bring yourself away from it. Eventually you’re increased physical awareness will help you pace yourself in your sexual encounters.
How to use sex toys for edging
Sex toys are a great way to enhance and play with orgasm control,
Masturbators, sleeves and strokers will help you get aroused and increase the sensory experience of your play.
For high-tech edging help, the Autoblow AI has a Fast Edge and a Slow Edge pattern and an edging button. The Fast Edge setting gives you full strokes for 8 seconds and then pauses for 3 seconds, the Slow Edge setting gives you full strokes for 20 seconds followed by a 5-second pause. The edge button allows you to pause the Autoblow before you blow, so you can start again, and again, and again.
Sex dolls and realistic butts and vaginas can be used for edging too – giving you the chance to practice anal, vaginal and oral stimulation, and with a sex doll you can move between different stimulation and penetration techniques to help prolong your experience.
Don’t forget the lube – chose a waterbased lube that is compatible with all types of sex toys and will make the experience more enjoyable for you.
Can edging be harmful?
No, edging and deliberately delaying orgasms isn’t harmful. It is a safe, pleasurable way to extend your sexual stamina and the duration of the sexual experience.
Edging is a safe, enjoyable way to explore your sexuality and build your sexual technique. Start alone and, as you build up your stamina and confidence you can include your partner whose only issue may be keeping up with you!